Reneé Davis is the founder of the Mummy Tries and a mum of three. She is also the author of Become the best You . Reneé talks Motherhood, fears and her favourite drink. Reneé is an incredible woman with an incredible story. Meet Reneé Davis.
What is the first thing you do when you wake up in the morning? I'm up most nights with one or more of the children, and mornings are rather hectic in our house. The kids are usually up first demanding food and drinks somewhere between 5-6am. Roughly once a week, I stay up after settling them back to sleep at 3-4am, and this is when I get a lot of writing done. I'm more often than not drinking a very large cup of freshly brewed coffee by 6 am!
What type of parent are you? I'd say I'm firm but fair. My kids would probably say I'm strict and mean!
What is the coolest thing about being a mum of three? Watching the three of them play nicely can be heart-meltingly wonderful.
What is the lesson your kids have taught you? They are a constant reminder to me to try and be the best I can possibly be. This might sound corny, but I had a severely dysfunctional upbringing, and if there is one thing I've learnt over the years it's that actions are what matter, words are irrelevant when all is said and done.
What advice would you give your 14-year-old self?A true friend will never judge, never look down and never abandon you in your hour of need. If you have a spat and need some distance, they will always come back to you somehow.
Favourite drink? Gin and tonic.
What is happening in your life at this minute? Wow, where to start? My husband and I made the decision to pull our 6yo out of school and start home educating her in November, and that takes up most of my energy at the moment. I'm currently writing a novel and hope to have a first draft completed by the summer, so snippets of spare time goes into that. My blog work is sporadic, but can take up a fair bit of time too. Then I try and see friends as much as I can. In addition to all this we eat the Paleo way, so a lot of thought goes into the food we eat.
Favourite dessert? It used to be creme brulee but I haven't had one in years as I don't eat sugar. I make a mean chocolate mousse using avocado as the base.
What is your most treasured possession? My wedding rings.
What is your best quote? "Be who you are and say what you feel, those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind." Dr. Seuss.
What are you most proud of that apart from motherhood? My blog and book are huge accomplishments.
What keeps you up at night? My kids! Eldest and youngest are terrible sleepers *sigh*
What does motherhood mean to you? It means everything. I left home when I was 15, and it took me a long time to come to terms with what I'd been through as a kid, then eleven years ago made the agonising decision to cut ties with my entire family. There was a time when having a family of my own seemed so far out of reach, almost impossible. Now that I do have one, I'm very aware that I will only get one shot at it.
What is your greatest fear? Dying young and leaving my kids without a mum. I'm terrified of even the thought of it.
Describe yourself in three words. Genuine. Ambitious. Open-Minded.
Do you think women can have it all? No, I don’t. I think women have been brainwashed by the media into thinking they can, but ultimately we can't. I did the modern day juggle for five years, working part time at an investment bank in the city, being a mum, trying to do everything, and be everything. Working part time with one child was fine, with two it was manageable to a degree, but going back to work after having my third was absolutely horrendous. I was dropping balls left, right and centre; and my son hated nursery. It was one of the most stressful periods of my entire life. Fortunately, I was made redundant nine months later, and the timing meant we were finally able to cope financially with me not getting another office based job. Prior to that, we couldn't have made ends meet without my salary.
Destiny or freewill? I'm a huge believer in things happening for a reason, but on the same token, we make our own luck in this world.
What is your biggest challenge as a mother? My 6-year-old has high functioning autism, this presents challenges for us daily that most of my friends describe as ' really rough patch'. My biggest challenge is ensuring that each of my children get enough attention throughout the day. This is not as simple as it sounds!
Who inspire you? My main inspirations are the people who constantly strive to be better than the person they were yesterday (but not in a materialistic way).
What book have you read that positively shaped you? I am a huge Oliver James fan and have most of his books. They F*** You Up, How Not to F*** Them Up, Affluenza and Love Bombing were all game changers for me.
What is your favourite food? I love Japanese, but not eating rice or noodles makes it a very expensive meal these days. My perfect at home cooked meal would be a med-rare rib eye steak with a huge pile of broccoli and sauteed onions on the side.
You just had a book Become The Best You Published. What is it about and how can it help me? Become the Best You is part memoir, part self-help, and tells my personal story of overcoming difficulties from my dysfunctional childhood to break the cycle and create a better life for my kids. After leaving home at fifteen I was seriously messed up. I lived my life in self-destruct mode for a decade afterwards, partying too hard and drinking too much. I suffered many bouts of depression along the way and had two full on mental breakdowns. Rock bottom came with breakdown number two, which is where I cleaned up my act and started turning my life around.The book contains everything I did during that process to secure my future happiness. I've had some brilliant reviews so far, and most readers have told me that they've benefited in some way from reading it, also that even those who had a lovely childhood would take something away from it.
If you could change one thing in the world, what would it be? Hunger, nobody should be starving to death in this day and age.
Where do you see yourself in ten years? Still pretty much here, doing this, but with a few more books under my belt.
How do you do to relax? I go to bed early and am really strict about switching off around 8- every night. Hubby and I always have a Netflix or Amazon boxed set on the go, so we watch a couple of programs while eating dinner most week nights. On Friday's we eat at the table, enjoy a couple of glasses of wine together and talk about our week. We don't get much time off to relax but did have a lovely night away for our anniversary last month. We treated ourselves to a spa and it was heavenly.
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