My Life - Monika Buglear

Monika Buglear, a creative soul and mother-of-two, on motherhood, boy bands, and going back to work...

What is the first thing you do when you wake up in the morning? If the children wake up before me, then we all cuddle up and love to talk about our dreams (as we do love to meet up in our dreams and go to crazy places… like our favourite place, (Candy Land). Otherwise, a coffee whilst checking on messages, emails and social media.

What is your daily ritual like? Since both my children are at school, I feel like my life revolves round school drop offs and pick ups. It’s been hectic since I started college and doing a part time job - my afternoons aside from homework and cooking dinner, are always spent with the children. We love to read books, cuddle up, play or bake.

What is your favourite food? I love my food and love cooking too! Nothing beats my mum's chicken noodle soup and my husband’s Sunday roast.

Do you have a pet name for your husband? I used to call him Pupak …it’s a term of endearment in Hungarian. Now he has a variety of names from honey to daddy or just simply his name Kris.

What is the coolest thing about you? It’s hard to say; probably my family and friends could give you an answer to that. It’s  probably my outlook on life. I’m quite an easy going, genuine person and love to have a good laugh no matter what life throws at you.

The favourite place you have ever visited? Years ago we went to Rome. I loved it so much I wanted to move there. The history of the place and all that beautiful architecture. But I equally loved the Maldives too and as I recall it, I wanted to move there too.

What is the coolest thing about being a mum? The unconditional love kids can give. The way they look at you, kiss you and hug you. The way they never judge and they are so much fun. I love how they can wrap you up in their happy little bubble… I love to feel their love.

What is the one talent you wished you had? I wish I could play on the piano… I wanted to learn since I was very little and somehow never had the time. But I guess it’s never too late...

What is your favourite music of all time? What music I like depends much on the mood I am in. It can vary from Otis Redding, Stevie Wonder to James Morrison via Pearl Jam and a bit of cheese… anything with a good beat and with soul in it.

What is your favourite band of all time? It’s a well-known fact among my family and friends that I was a big boy band fans… New Kids on the Block. (Yep that was me!)

However, my taste in music has since improved, even though my husband would slightly disagree. It took most of my teenage years to get over them and my unfilled love for a certain member. When they re-united some years ago, we went to see them with my sister and oh my… it was AMAZING. I have never seen so many middle-aged women screaming. Time travelling at its best.

What is the book that made a difference to your life? Again, I have to refer to my teenage years. When I was 16, I read Charlotte Bronte, Jane Eyre, etc. My forever romantic came over me and I suddenly fell in love with England. I became pretty obsessed, and I just knew I had to go and see England myself. Never in my wildest dreams did I imagine marrying a Brit and living my happily-ever-after here.

What do you still have from your childhood? A stuffed toy dog called Buksi. I've had it since I was 8 years old - bought it with my own pocket money - we’ve had some amazing adventures together. Now, Buski is happily sitting on my daughter’s bed.

What is your favourite colour? Blue. Mostly dark blue and recently mustard.

Who is your fashion Icon? My fashion icon is a cross between Coco Chanel and Bridget Bardot. Love a French girl's style.

What does motherhood mean to you? It stretches your heart in a way that I never thought was possible. It also means giving up the biggest piece of cake and being just completely happy with that.

What is the lesson your kids have taught you? Apart from patience, and the ability to survive on 4 hours sleep, it’s the love. The unconditional love.

What movie made you cry the most? This is hard, as I cry about anything and everything. There are quite a few, but My Sister’s Keeper and Stepmom really did hit home.

What is the best advice you have ever been given? Never give up and keep smiling.

What advice would you give your 14 year old self? I would give myself a big hug, squeeze my little spotty face and say, "Don't worry so much about what people think of you and be brave to talk."

What is the one rule you ignore? I think deep inside I am a bit of a rebel and would love to ignore rules. But I am never brave enough to do so.

What is the one rule your kids ignore? Jumping up and down on their beds. As much as I want to join in the fun but for the beds sake, we have to say no but they still keep doing it.

Do you believe in freewill or destiny? Both. My freewill decided on many adventures in my life but my fate or destiny led me to places and people.

Monika is on Instagram https://instagram.com/mbuglear/. 

October 30, 2015 — Yvonne Telford